卡在我不知道，我不在乎，我不他妈的！对于今天的博客帖子来说，什么是神话般且完全合适的T恤？
There are many perks to working for 您rself in 您r twenties such as the freedom, both literally and creatively, the pride of creating a world for 您rself and of course, in my case doing something I completely and utterly love.
但是，最近遇到了一次个体经营的诸多弊端，而走到另一头，我认为与其讨论将是有益的，因为我还没有看到某人在线上写的任何这种性质的东西。与我类似的职位，我认为这可能会有所帮助。
Discussing the downside to being 您r own boss and running 您r own businesses in 您r twenties is something I’ve wanted to chat about for a while. It’s a tricky subject to tackle as I am so grateful and so proud to have created this job for myself and I truly, truly love what I do. However, I think it’s important to show the downsides to life; the things 那 make us all human and I guess the things 那 go unspoken in this world of social media.
我经常担心这些类型的帖子，因为现在很容易冒犯别人，即使只是谈论方式 I feel. I’m sure some negative Nelly will leave this blogpost having only taken away the fact 那 他们 觉得我是“忘恩负义“ 要么 ”吟”，但他们 不 我正在和他们聊天的人，他们从未去过，他们 决不 将会。
The people I’m talking to in this blogpost are those 那 have supported me from the beginning, or even those 那 have only just started supporting me, but who have been there for me through the ups and the downs. I am very much a normal 26 year old Northern gal, who just so happens to be on social media and just so happens to work for herself. It’s taken a lot of hard work to get 这里 and more recently a little knock to my mental health so I think it’s important to share this with 您 and to also act as a little bit of therapy for me too, ‘cause we all know how good it feels to talk! If 您’re feeling at all down, lost or completely messed up, please know 您’re 不 alone. Talk to somebody whether it’s me (my emails and DM’s are always open) or even better a close friend or family member. A problem shared is a problem halved after all!
精神健康
So, six and a half years and a heck load of work, into this rather strange yet totally wonderful career online and just when I thought I had the whole thing sussed, something shifted and I began to spiral out of control a wee bit. Now I’m 不 being dramatic 这里 but I really did change a little. Something inside my head altered and I was no longer the positive, proactive and driven person 那 I had always been. I began to doubt everything I wrote and shared, I doubted what I was wearing and I had a panic attack in the middle of a busy dance floor…
That was one of the scariest moments of my life and I actually can’t believe I’m writing this 这里. My mum’s 不 going to be happy with me for sharing this one, but if it helps just one of 您 then I’ll be glad I did share after all.
After my major blip on the dance floor I raced to my parents house at midnight and cried my eyes out for no reason whatsoever. I proclaimed 那 I’d lost myself, I didn’t want to do this anymore and 那 I wanted to hide away from the judgemental eyes of viewers and followers.
您 see, when 您 read nasty and fabricated things about 您rself online, despite how many or how few there may be, 您 start to believe them. 您 start to think 那 everyone else thinks 那, and 您 inevitably lose 您rself to the negativity.
Until this moment back in January I’d been able to brush off the negativity (after having a sulk about it for a day or two) but it was the moment I felt 那 I didn’t know what to wear in a morning 那 I knew 那 I’d lost myself well and truly. Styling myself was always something I was so confident in, even when everything else seemed so uncertain. I knew who I was style wise and I used clothing as an armour against the world or as a persona I wanted to create 那 day- the minute 那 faltered I knew it was bad.
After a period ov moping in my own self pity, I decided to take ownership of myself again. I sorted out my wardrobe, I added a new piece or two 那 really sparked joy within me and I brainstormed what it was 那 I was good at and what it was 那 I enjoyed doing.
Doing all of the above and sadly going through the tougher times of being self employed through being online made me realise how important it is to feel inspired in 您r work, no matter how 那 translates in 您r industry, I am a fashion content creator so like it or 不 I need to have some of the newness 那 is out there in order to style, write and inspire 您 guys, I can only hope 那 it allows 您 to make better and more meaningful purchases going forward.
Unfortunately negativity in this way comes part and parcel with a lot of jobs 那 are perhaps a little newer in the grand scheme of things or jobs 那 不 everybody understands. It’s the way we as the individual deal with it 那 makes a difference and from 这里 on out I’m trying to find 那 inner sass in order to turn the other cheek to such bad vibes.
冒名顶替综合症
I’ve heard this term a lot lately and it seems 那 sadly a lot of online creators are feeling this way; a telling sign of what negativity online, and I guess just working online entirely, can do to our self worth and our mental health. But it’s 不 just working online, this seems to be happening across a whole host of job roles; I think it’s a rather millennial issue 那 a lot of us are trying to deal with which is really rather sad.
I 决不 really understood the meaning of 冒名顶替综合症 until this year when I felt guilty about something I’ve dreamt about all my life potentially happening. I’m still unable to feel proud or get excited about this prospect and it’s really quite sad. I know deep down 那 this is an incredible achievement but my stupid brain won’t allow me to realise 那 I’ve earnt it. Instead I feel guilty and 不 worthy of such a thing and the thought of actually telling people about said achievement is terrifying to me… Go figure!
I would love to be able to tell 您 exactly how I’ve worked to over come this one but the truth is 那 it's still a work in progress, something I’m trying to deal with and work out through time. I’m sure/I hope when said “令人兴奋的前景” actually happens 那 I’ll be able to enjoy it for what it is but until then imposter syndrome is very much a part of my day-to-day life.
工作与生活的平衡
Ahhh 那 age old problem of nailing the work:life ratio. Something I was convinced I had nailed but something I’m realising, with time, comes in waves. Sometimes it’s level, other times it isn’t and 那’s just life. However, it doesn’t stop it becoming a bit of an issue at times.
When I first took my blog into full time territory I had this down to a fine art. I loved being able to take the morning or afternoon off to enjoy the perks of being self employed. And if I wanted to take the day off to enjoy some time with George, friends, family or just for me then I’d do it, safe in the knowledge 那 this was what I’d worked so hard for and 那 I deserved it. I was confident in my routine and confident enough in my work to allow myself to revel in working for myself.
快进了四年，上一节提到的罪恶感在这里也盛行。当我休息日，缺乏博客文章和视频的灵感以及CBA情绪甚至早晨准备就绪时，我感到非常内。内是真实的，由于这种内，我的工作效率大大降低了。但是，我没有让自己感觉到这种感觉，而是出门在外做事而不是做工作，而是殴打自己，这绝对不是解决这些问题的方法。
在过去的几周中，我试图采取一些步骤来重新获得曾经自营职业的信心和乐趣。我已经允许我自己放假，以便带我的娜娜出去吃午饭，这是我喜欢做的事，而且我知道这也对她的一周产生了很大的影响。我和我的堂兄弟及其婴儿度过了一个早晨，我很早就打算和朋友们一起喝杯酒，我会慢慢感觉到我的魔力正悄悄回到工厂。
Being able to work for 您rself is a luxury 那 不 everyone has and I know 那 I should enjoy it while it lasts ‘cause it might 不 be the case forever. I’m also learning 那 taking the time away from my work actually helps in the long run, it provides more interesting Instagram的 Stories or vlog footage, it takes me away from a non-starter idea and works to give me the inspiration I need, and it of course does wonders for my happiness.
Learning to switch off is key for all kinds of jobs, there’s no point dwelling on what 您 could be doing, if 您’re 不 feeling it then step away, take a breather and come back to it tomorrow. Work will always (hopefully) be there and in the grand scheme of things, is it really as important as taking 您r Nan out for pizza?
未来不确定
Speaking of work hopefully always being there, it’s a struggle to know where this career in particular is headed. I certainly believe 那 social media will develop and grow and there will always be room for us online, however it’s a scary thought doing this forever, particularly when it comes to self worth and mental health. I think it’s important with any job to have 您r fingers in many pies, similarly to me with my blog and online world, and then of course with my clothing brand Saturday. I also have other things in the background 那 I don’t share online 那 act as creative outlets in case I want to move onto something else entirely. It’s a scary thing 不 knowing what the future holds, particularly with a job 那 didn’t exist past 10 years ago, but I just need to remember 那 no job is certain, the future is scary for everyone no matter what 他们 do and we’re all in this world of uncertainty together.
比较方式
在这里，我是在写完本文的其余部分两周后写本节的，因为今天过得很糟糕，无法与他人进行自我比较。我知道这很糟糕，我知道比较是欢乐的窃贼，而且我知道这对我没有任何好处，但是在这里，我却非常罕见，但是却在那里进行比较狂欢。
比较方式 is of course a part of every type of job out there, there is always someone 您 look to who might be doing a little better, working a little faster or succeeding a little louder, but it’s important to 不 allow this to affect us negatively. Don’t let what other people are doing ruin the way 您 see 您rself (easier said than done I know) we’re all doing our thing in our way and in our own time and whilst it’s normal to compare from time to time, as long as it’s utilised in a way to spur 您 on to be better then unfortunately it’s something 那 simply comes with being human.
If I’m feeling less of a human, I try to think of 4 things 那 I am grateful for and as hippy dippy as 那 sounds, it always makes me realise exactly what I’ve got and brings me crashing back to earth with one almighty “GET A GRIP!” Try it, I’m telling 您 it works!
跟踪数据和末日将至（我的意思是这个博客文章）
因此，我们有了它，这是世界上最长的博客（很抱歉！）。但是显然我有很多事情要做，尽管我确信这些起起伏伏的感觉写了我的感觉真是太好了。这么长时间以来，我一直在努力地处理自己的博客，我为此感到非常自豪。
Sometimes working for 您rself isn’t all it’s cracked up to be; Yes of course it’s fabulous at times and I feel so 幸运 to do what I love every single day, but it’s more the things it does to 您r mind and 您r self worth 那 are harder to understand. Not to mention it can often feel quite lonely doing this kind of job, so getting out and away from work is something we must try and do more of.
为了尽力解决以上所有问题，我不得不跟踪自己的数据，听起来很怪异，但请听我说...
我听了其中一首 艾玛 Gannon的播客最近与Wah Nails创始人Sharmadean Reid一起, where she discussed how important it was to track 您r own data in order to truly understand 您rself, makes sense right! How are we supposed to know why we are feeling this way if we don’t have a little log on when we last felt it.
I know 那 when I’m down for no apparent reason and of course when my boobs ache, 那 my period is imminent. However, when I’m angry and unmotivated for no reason I can’t understand it and therefore punish myself for feeling this way which does no good for anything, especially 不 for my productivity. So instead I’m 不ing in my calendar when I’m feeling this way, so I can look back on it next time I feel 那 way to see if there is any correlation. Perhaps I had a night out the evening before, maybe I ate too many carbs, didn’t drink enough water, or maybe it’s a certain month of the year 那 brings me down, tracking this kind of data can only be useful in learning to understand who 您 are, what 您 need and how to get it.
例如，我的意思是整个一月和二月都非常低落，我的意思是，谁没有，但这在过去几年中一直是重复出现的主题。圣诞节结束了，庆祝活动，派对和聚会也结束了，我们回到工作了。但是对我来说，工作非常安静，理性（或者不是deffo），我觉得自己的职业生涯结束了……
It’s been this way for the past three years at least, so next year, rather than revelling in my own misery and lack of worth, I’m going to ensure 那 I have a holiday booked for the end of January in order to stop this cycle from continuing, sounds great ey!
We all have down times, slow times and moments of doubt, it’s totally normal, it’s talking about it and sharing these moments with one another 那 make it better for 您 and for everyone else. We all need to know 那 we’re 不 alone in our thoughts and our feelings so we can help one another through it. So 那s why I’ve written this post today and I hope it helps even just one of 您 to know 那 we’re all the same whether we work for ourselves or 不, and 那 it feels better to talk, or in my case to write.
M
Just wanted to leave a little 不e to say 那 您’再好不过了’s 不hing better than legging it to 您r parents house for a jolly good cry. The fact 那 您 recognise these feelings is one of the biggest first steps! Too many people end up in a downwards spiral because 他们 beat themselves up for feeling frankly dreadful, and I think using 您r platform to normalise all of this is very strong and brave! The more often we see the words panic attack, or depression or whatever, the more it enters our mainstream conversations and I’m the first to tell anyone who asks 那 yep, been there, because it’这不是我们应该感到羞耻的事情。我爱你所做的事，并且以一种不毛骨悚然的方式爱着你’从一个独立的小鸡变成我去参加大学毕业生的舞会，和一个皮尔里的WooWoo投手分享，再到一个真正的商业女人，她的头一直伸直！一世’ll 决不 enter the same industries as 您 but working remotely in data and tech, I feel a lot of the same imposter syndrome, and work life balance probs and can take a lot of good advise from blog posts like this. And with 那, I’我在星期四的午餐时间去瑜伽，因为我可以。很多的爱xxx
您 have no idea how much it means to see 您r comments in 这里 爱伦! 您’re such a good egg, thank 您!
感谢您的理解并让我感到不那么孤独。也感谢您让我在大学时过得很好哈哈，哈哈，我们是否应该尽快去喝酒？但是也许这次不是WooWoo的投手了！
xxx
梅格斯写得这么好，我真的很期待这个！一世’ve been working half/half as blogger and social media manager for the past 2 years or so, and only recently took the plunge to transform completely into being my own boss. And like 您, I try to keep my career a little more safe with having other stuff going on to support my online career as well, just because who knows how long 您 can keep doing this or how long (as 您 also write) 您 are able to handle it mentally? Sharing so much of 您r life online is no joke.
我认为除了您提到的冒名顶替综合症外，我们千禧一代所特有的另一件事几乎就像“violation syndrome”。如今，人们感到自己被最小的事情所侵犯（有时谁会责怪我们，有时世界上所有混乱的事情都在发生），因此有些人将言论自由提升到全新的水平，尤其是在网络上，而不是在考虑他们实际上伤害了坐在屏幕另一侧的那个人。我的意思是，例如我’我试图成为一个温和的日常生态活动家，并激励人们在消费方式上进行现实而有力的改变，但仍然会有一些人相信我’我做得不够好–完全忽略了这么多人根本没有做的事实，但仍然觉得有必要降低我所有的辛苦工作’在过去的5年中，我一直在做自己，使自己陷入骗局。因此，我完全感到您的无奈，尤其是冒名顶替综合症。最终，那些（不是很有建设性的）单词会吸引您，您开始质疑这是否完全值得–即使您知道自己非常荣幸能够与您绝对喜欢的事物一起工作，也拥有如此多的自由。生活中的一切都是相对的，即使它可能随着您的存在而消失“ungrateful”您的感受与其他事物一样真实。
与您分享了我自己的一些经验后，我只是想说，’ve已经跟着您走了几年，尤其是您的视频，由于某些原因，成为我关注的绝佳去处。我们不’一定会在时尚方面分享相同的风格，但是与家人和男友分享的开朗灵魂和温暖使我想起’毕竟，这个世界上有那么多的爱。一世’我和我的童年时期都很麻烦’我在20多岁时也很孤单，我很欣赏您与家人和朋友之间牢不可破的联系。在这个人们倾向于选择自己的幸福而不是其他任何事情的世界中（害怕错过；另一种千禧一代综合症），我认为’你们都可以为此感到自豪。而且’我带入自己成年后的想法“that’我也想成为自己的孩子的父母”. Also, the kind of online content I value most is either content 那 can teach me something or content 那 can make me feel relaxed and grounded, something 那 can block out any anxieties I might feel looking at the world sometimes. And 您’ve definitely been 那 kind of online persona for me.
Whatever 您 choose to do career-wise in the long run, please know 那 at least 您’ve meant a lot to someone in this world and I truly believe 您’ve earned everything 您’ve accomplished – no matter what the trolls try to make 您 think. The good will always win <3
爱，签x
签名, I read 您r comment in a taxi on the way home from a photoshoot and teared up a little bit! It honestly made me feel all the emotions from sadness, to happiness, to joy and relief; relief 那 my blogpost meant something and 那 您 could relate to it in some way, thank 您!
Thanks for sharing 您r story too it honestly, truly means the world and I’ll certainly be re-reading 您r gorgeous comment whenever I need a pick-me-up.
I hope 您’重新做好我的爱，并再次感谢！周末愉快x
Also, 通过 “violated” what I meant was actually more “offended”. 😉 think 那’s the word I was looking for. Anyway, think 您 got my point!
梅根（Megan）真是一个美好，诚实和衷心的帖子！ X
Thank 您 凯特 <3 x
即使我可以与这篇文章建立很多联系’我不是专职博客。我向您发送了积极的气氛。我真的希望你’最近感觉好多了。我知道这会变得艰难，特别是如果你’无法关闭工作。我感受你！一世’在忙于处理日常工作的同时一直在发展我的博客，有时’s just so overwhelming 那 I also burst into tears. Sharing about 您r experiences makes us know we’并不孤单，所以谢谢您的分享。 - 一世’我有惊恐发作& anxiety.. it ain’漂亮。是的，当您将自己与他人进行比较时会变得困难，但是您’这样一个独特的博客。我爱你’re able to stay authentic and 那 您r presence online is so positive. I always look forward to seeing 您r posts! Whenever 您 feel like it gets too much, please take a break because 您 deserve it. I also have recently started reading positive affirmations daily and have seen 那 it helps lift my mood. Always cheering 您 on, Megan! 🙂
Oh Izzy, lovely Izzy, thank 您 for taking the time to read such a hefty post of mine! It means so much to read 您r words and to know 您’re cheering me on, thank 您! I too am cheering 您 on! 您 got this girlie!
我喜欢每天阅读肯定确认的想法，这是一个应用程序吗？一世’d love it if 您 could share with me x
您’re welcome! 🙂 And awww thank 您 too, Megan! 🤗I looked online (on Pinterest haha!) for positive affirmations and compiled a list in a 不ebook. Some of the affirmations I have written down are : “我会成功。我有信心。我选择积极。我很好我过着理想的生活。” It’s really up to 您 which affirmations speak to 您. 🙂
自从上周您提到此帖子以来，我为之兴奋不已’t disappoint! I also commented on 您r last post 那 I’d recently made the move from working as a fashion designer in an office, to now doing freelance design and working from home, and 那 I wasn’还是很享受。我已经和你一样了，我’我只有一个月是自由职业者。我不’t feel like it’s a “proper job”当我下午休假或午餐去健身房时，我感到很糟糕。一世’m so used to being in an office all the time with colleagues 那 I’我已经习惯于因请假感到内。和唐’让我开始从事自雇税收工作– I’m so confused!
我想我主要’我担心自己感到孤独，没有结交新朋友。通常，我会让我所有的朋友都在工作，但是自从在伦敦生活和工作多年后回到曼彻斯特以来，我的大多数朋友都在南方-
Thanks for speaking about 您r panic attacks – honestly I would 决不 have guessed because 您 always seems so happy, but social media isn’一定是现实！
Ahhh 艾米非常感谢您再次发表评论，它’s lovely to hear from 您!
It’s a tough thing the ole guilt tripping 您rself isn’t it! It’s ridiculous really when we know deep down 那 it’s more than okay to take some time away from work and it benefits us in the long run, yet 那 little guilt monster creeps right on up to us, damn it!
朋友是一个棘手的人，我可以’t lie 那 it is hard to make them when 您 work for 您rself, I was in a similar position to 您 when I left London to return to 曼彻斯特 and in-turn left some friends behind. I just try and be as social as possible and hope 那 new friendships will form organically, it’s deffo 不 something 您 can force ey?!
嗯，是的，社交媒体绝对是一大亮点。我会尽量做到诚实，尤其是在这里，所以我’m glad what I said meant something to 您.
再次感谢您阅读宝贝x
Such a refreshing read. Even as a non self employed individual I can so relate to all of this! 您’re fabulous. Keep doing what 您’re doing X
Oh 贝丝 thank 您. It was a hard blogpost to write and to hit publish on bit I’m glad even as a non self employed individual 那 您 could relate. Thanks so much for taking the time to read and to comment, it means a lot x
非常感谢您的真实性和开放性。我只能梦想做您以谋生为目的的事情，尽管从局外人的角度看这一切看起来都很轻松，但我很欣赏这些现实。一世’ve been blogging since October, and I feel like a total mess all the time, comparing myself to other people, struggling to create content, feeling uninspired, watching my already dismal views dissipate; I can only imagine the pressure 您 must feel having created something (a network of content/people/business) 那 is so obviously dear to 您. Thank 您 for sharing 您r struggles, and I hope 您 know 那 您r content is very loved x
-乔治亚州| http://www.thestatesofgeorgia.com
Thank 您 so much for sharing this Megan, it was such an Interesting read 🙂
艾玛（Emma） http://www.collagemepretty.com
这么好的帖子！非常感谢分享！一世 ’成为自雇作家已有两年之久，也有点不知所措。这是我一生中最辛苦的几年！一世’m 27 and have a lot to figure out yet as any twenty-something, and doing 那 all while being my own boss and cooperating with people twice my age is really hard sometimes. It can feel like 您 have to know so much, and grow up so fast when 您’重新自雇。我认为它’跟随一个人真的很重要’自己的胆量，花时间找出您真正想去的地方（不只是一直说是，因为“it’难得的机会” –就像一个聪明人对我说过的：“if it doesn’感觉不对，可能不是’t”），并完全抽出时间。一世’我还在学习自己！
I really love 您r work and have felt so inspired 通过 您r style since the moment I found 您r blog! 您’ll get 那 balance!
I’m so glad 您 can relate to this post 伊丽莎白 but also so sad 那 您’经历了和我一样的事情，生活吧！非常感谢可爱的话语和智慧的话语，我’ll try and remember 那 xx
梅根，我’m so glad 您 wrote this post. 您 definitely bring a lot into the blogging community, 不 only with 您r unique style and voice, but with 您r honesty. Like 您 said, the bad sides are 不 highlighted enough, but 他们 are just as important as the good ones. 您 were very real with this post, 那 was very brave of 您 to share how 您 feel.
我只能说一点，因为我’m going to be a freelancer too once I graduate at the end of the year (as a translator). I loved reading about 您r experience, and know 那 there are so many of us who love 您r content and don’t actually expect anything. If 您 can’t keep up with 您r schedule, it’完全可以。心理健康永远是一’s priority.
I wish 您 all the best with 您r new projects (moving house, driving (it took me 4 tries and 3 fails to get it so I know the pain haha)). The new Jimmy’利物浦的s项目看起来很疯狂！
满满的爱<3
马德琳
Thank 您 for reading 马德琳 and for being so lovely always! x
I go on holiday every January too! It’s a slow month for me ( wedding florist) and I also have the feeling of impending doom around my career every January. A holiday at 那 time of year Is a total game changer! ☺️
我会在2020年1月汇报-啊哈，谢谢gorge x
Good on 您 for writing this Megan! As someone who follows 您r Insta and often thinks “I wish I could be more like her” it’s refreshing to know 那 even 您 have down days and struggle with confidence. It’s so important 那 people talk about it, especially as like 您 say, 您r job is relatively new and it’s difficult to know the effect it can have on someone until it has (if 那 makes sense?!) As someone who works with mental health charities and talks in the media about my own mental health and the effects of social media on 那 – I think it’s great 那 您 have shown the flipside. So important for people to recognise 那 whilst it looks all fun and games it is still a job and with it comes the same stresses as other jobs. 您’re great and don’t stop being 您 – 您’re very relatable and likeable and “normal” and I think 那’s why so many people love 您. Just remember 那 when 您’re having one of those days; there will always be mean people who like to tear a strip off but 他们 don’t matter. What matters is 您’re doing something 您 love and bringing joy to others xxx
Thanks so much for reading Michelle and for 您r gorgeous comment! It means so much to hear from 您 and to know 那 您 enjoyed my post. It was a tricky one to read but I’m so glad it’s allowed people to realise 那 no matter what job 您 do we all have our moments of self doubts where we wobble a bit/ a lot.
满满的爱and thanks so much for 您r lovely words x
这实际上是一个非常好的阅读。
I work in an office job, full time, which I actually love, but I often find myself jealous and longing for the life of 您 ‘lucky’ influencers and girls running 您r own brands and businesses.
It’s really nice to see the self disclosure 您’ve done and 那 actually 您 have a lot of similar worries and ‘moments’ with 您rself doubting 您r decisions or what 您’re doing with 您r life.
It’s even nicer to see 那 您’re aware of all of this and are taking steps to get 您r mojo back – 您’re clearly an inspiration to a lot of people and 他们’re the ones 那 matter, 不 the negative Nora’s who love a moan!
Thanks for giving me a little perspective 那 life on the other side of the Instagram的 grid isn’t all glitter and rainbows and actually we’re all pretty much going through the same things in this crazy world!
Keep doing 您 and focussing on those important things like pizza and 您r nan! xx
Thanks 瑞安 glad 您 enjoyed the post and it was able to change 您r views on us “lucky” influencers. We are very 幸运 to do what we do but like any job it’有时很难，但并不总是彩虹！
非常爱，非常感谢您阅读并给我留言x
完全明白你的意思！当你在那里工作时’s also 那 misconception 那 it’s 不 really a “real job” or people don’不能当真，我可以笑–但在我的脑海里’s constantly like “you’re a failure because 您 don’t have a REAL job”. It slowly takes a toll on 您r mental health and suddenly one day 您’re crying because 您 forgot to buy milk but really it’s cos everything has overwhelmed 您 at once(too specific?? oops maybe). It’谈论这些主题很重要，而我’m glad more people 那 are self-employed/freelance are talking about it, makes it feel less isolating.
Mucho Amor，
费尔南达
Totally with 您 on 那 one babes, it’s a struggle to listen to what 您 know in 您r heart and 不 let the doubters make 您 feel less of a person <3
感谢您与我们分享您的内心挣扎，并使我们似乎时不时地感觉正常化。自2016年发现您的instagram页面以来，我一直是您博客，vlog和现在服装系列的忠实粉丝。您以个人风格帮助了我，包括发现了许多新的设计师和品牌。’d 决不 heard of! I also really enjoy 您r homeware hauls and seeing all the quirky bits and bobs 那 您 style 您r home with. The future is uncertain but for now I really do enjoy reading 您r blog posts and watching the videos 您 post as 他们 spark joy in me, especially cuties Peter and Nancy! Keep being 您 and doing what 您’re doing we’都在这里跌宕起伏:)。
Oh 妮娜 thank 您 so much! It means the world to hear 您 enjoy what I do and makes everything so worthwhile. I love what I do so it’听到它真好’s being well received Thank 您 x
What a heartfelt post Megan, and totally agree 那 sometimes just a good old cuddle from mum is very much needed. It’我们生活在一个有趣的旧世界里’s a lot of jealousy out there. Doing the job 您 do leaves 您 quite vulnerable I should imagine but 您’re such a lovely person with an amazing family to support 您 so 您 should be very proud of 您rself! Do 不 feel guilty for having time for 您rself, 您 keep looking out for 您r Nanna, bit of normality now and then will do 您 the world of good! Take care x
Oh Pam thank 您 🙂 Means the world to have 您r support 🙂 您r lovely comment really made my morning, thank 您 x
Heya there 梅根，我 wanted to thank 您 for 您r transparency and constant inspiration and motivation I pull from 您, 您r videos, 您r blog and content. I feel almost selfish for how much 您 give, give, give- and how hard it is for us content consumers to let 您 know how much 您 were loving it!
I’ve worked remotely for several years, and while working for 您rself is definitely more challenging, I recognize so many of the same challenges 您 mentioned in my own day to day.
I recently attended a talk hosted 通过 Brene Brown, if 您 haven’t read her books, watched her Ted Talk or new Netflix special seriously stop and go do 那 the next time 您’re feeling down and out. She is an awe-inspiring bad ass lady who dives into many of the topics 您 mentioned above and uses data to prove her points.
Here’s some quick takeaways from her talk last week, 那 just so amazingly go along with 您r blog post I can’t 不 share:
冒名顶替综合症- if 不 me, then who? Who benefits if 您 don’t do it, no one, and no one like 您.
基于自恋的羞辱，害怕变得平凡
Vulnerability- setting boundaries, asking for what 您 need, talk about how 您 feel
停止感到怨恨-喝毒药，等待其他人死亡
If 您 thinking 您’re going to do what 您’re meant and want to do, 您 can’t expect for everyone to be happy about it – Oprah
羞耻不能在同理心中生存。而不是羞耻，开始建立同理心。羞耻是由无法实现的期望所驱动。
现实检查技能有助于增强抵御能力。
How to feel better, Play- time spent without purpose, lose track of time, no sense of what 您’re supposed to be doing
满满的爱
麦肯齐，我可以 ’t thank 您 enough for this beautiful, thought provoking comment! It means so much! Beautiful words and great advice 那 I will definitely be taking on board! But where do I start? Ted Talk? Netflix show? Let me know gorge x
Start with the Ted Talk! It’ll give 您 a taste of what she’s all about will help 您 choose which topic to dive into next.
最好，
麦肯齐
Reading this blog post was exactly what I needed and I thank 您 so much for 那! I’m currently studying 时尚 Art Direction in good old 曼彻斯特 and I have been really struggling with believing 那 I’我已经足够好了，所以这是在适当的时候。我认为它’s hard as a creative to ignore negativity from others when our work is constantly being judged whether 那 be from teachers, friends, family and so on, but after reading 您r blog post and some wise words from my mum I’ve realised 那 the most important opinion is our own. So thank 您 again I feel beyond inspired!
Oh 凯瑟琳, 您’如此如此如此正确！只要我们享受并相信自己和我们所拥有的东西，妈妈的话就是如此真实’re doing 那 really is all 那 matters! Beautiful! x